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Most of the time, dumpers don't need to pretend that they're over you because the end of the relationship signals that they are. They end the relationship with the intention to go separate ways and focus only on themselves and things that matter to them.

Dumpees, on the other hand, find it difficult to pretend. They are usually so heartbroken that their ex can sense their pain a mile away.

If you got dumped and you're trying to figure out if your ex's actions are genuine, look no more. Here are 11 signs your ex is pretending to be over you.

1)Your ex can't stop looking at you

If you catch your ex gazing at you and quickly averting his or her eyes away from you not once, but many times, you can be almost certain your ex still has feelings for you.

Eye contact aversion is an important non-verbal expression that signals interest, attention, and most prominently—respect.

The reason why this sign is so important is that when your ex is truly pretending to be over you, he or she becomes self-aware of his or her non-verbal communication, and therefore, puts too much attention on pretending.

In so doing, your ex's non-verbal communication goes into overdrive, enhancing his or her perception and coincidentally—attitude and responses to environmental stimuli.

As a result of unwavering anxiety, your ex succumbs to the pressure and begins to pretend to be over you. In other words, an overly-conscious ex starts having trouble remaining calm and in control, so he or she acts out of character.

Very seldom do human beings actually think about what they're like when they are normal (not anxious). They're just being themselves. Ant the same goes for people who lie. When they start feeling pressured because of their lies, they give away a very artificial signal. A signal for they're not over you and that you still affect them emotionally.

So if you have trouble identifying your ex's true intentions due to lack of communication, look him or her in the eyes.

The adage "eyes speak a thousand words" is not just some random bogus. It proves what your ex feels and thinks.

2)Your ex is trying to prove he or she is over you

The second sign your ex is merely pretending to be over you is when your ex goes the extra mile to prove so.

The more your ex tries to prove a point by defending himself or herself when others tease him or her, for example, the bigger the sign that your ex is not over you yet.

Your ex will, therefore, look for reasons that he or she is over you. If your ex can't find any, your ex will make them up and do anything to justify his or her actions.

Sometimes dumpers do their best to prove how "unaffected" they are by the breakup. They act so irrationally and upset by the breakup that their friends and family easily spot their erratic, unnatural behavior.

My psychological theory goes like this; the more you focus on what you don't want, the more you show what you want.

This is especially true when you want something so badly you keep thinking about it so much that you give away obvious signs of nervousness.

People usually become nervous in job interviews, public speaking, breakups, reconciliations, crushes.

3)Non-verbal giveaways

Exes who pretend to be over you will give you obvious non-verbal signs that are hard to be overlooked.

That's because our bodies from head to toe react to our surroundings. They reflect our thoughts, desires, fears, and even insecurities.

Here are 5 prominent non-verbal signs your ex is pretending to be over you.

There are hundreds of ways to tell your ex is pretending to be over you. If you have the privilege to see your ex in person, the signs above are the most noticeable things to look out for.

It's important not to mistake your ex's unease or contempt for a sign that your ex is pretending to be over you, though. If your ex refuses to look you in the eyes, this is a sign of guilt, shame and the desire to run away.

Other acute body language signs are awkward hugs, little or no body contact, standing away from you and showing you the back, avoiding you.

4)Trying to make you jealous

Although this is an out-of-book dumpee technique, dumpers are guilty of trying to make their ex jealous as well.

Sometimes exes go above and beyond to show how much fun they are having with other people and post it all over their social media. In doing so, they deliberately set traps for dumpees to get caught in. But dumpers, unfortunately, seldom fall for it.

They see that their ex is in pain and that he or she is not having as much fun as he or she is pretending to have.

Those dumpers who do fall for it more often than not get annoyed by it. They think their ex is posting too much, too quickly and that their ex should take the time to self-invest instead.

There are many different ways dumpers try to instill jealousy in dumpees' minds. Most of them are indirect approaches that allow them to keep their dignity.

Dumpers try their best to bring out dumpees' jealousy by:

• posting pictures with their new partner
• showing off their new friends
• pointing out how unbelievably happy they are
• pretending to be over the dumpee
• belittling their past relationship
• wearing revealing/appealing outfits

5)Stalking profusely

If you can catch your ex stalking you profusely on social media—preferably without his or her awareness, you have one of the best signs your ex is pretending to be over you.

How you're going to catch your ex stalking you is for you to figure out. But if you do catch your ex, you truly have one of the best signs that your ex is not over you yet.

This implies that as long as your ex keeps an eye on you, he or she cares to some degree. Anger and resentment don't show that your ex cares about you, but stalking you and watching your every move does.

An ex pretending to be over you is going to, as the word says—pretend to be over you.

Your ex is going to try to hide his or her feelings for you so that you, your ex's friends, family, and anyone related to your ex doesn't find out.

Since your ex cares about you, your ex is going to give away subtle signs of pretending to be over you whether he or she likes it or not. Watching who you spend time with, where you're going in your free time, and how you're holding on after the breakup are just a few signs that show your ex is pretending to be over you.

But whatever you do, don't mistake an ex blocking you or ignoring you as one of the signs that your ex is pretending to be over you.

A person that blocks you and ignores you does so out of spite and self-protection and not because of love.

6)Refusing to give you your stuff back

Another feasible sign your ex is just pretending to be over you is when your ex refuses to give you your stuff back. There are only 2 possible reasons why an ex-boyfriend or an ex-girlfriend would do that:

1. Due to anger and bitterness.
2. Because your ex is pretending to be over you and doesn't want to move on.

And that's it. There are no other explanations as to why an ex would withhold your belongings from you.

If you ask your ex for your stuff back and he or she refuses to do so without a reasonable explanation, your ex has ulterior motives.

And since he or she won't tell reasons why you can consider it as one of the signs your ex is pretending to be over you and is leaving the door open for a possible reconciliation.

7)Holding on to memories

Dumpees often treasure their past memories way more than dumpers. This is because they are engulfed in despair, whereas dumpers are overpowered with relief and anger and need time to themselves.

Nostalgia is a powerful emotion. In fact, dumpees know just how bittersweet it is as they look at old photos, conversations, and anything resembling their dumper. By doing so, they keep their hope for the relationship alive and stop themselves from going insane.

With that said, one of the 11 signs your ex is pretending to be over you is when your ex keeps his or her reminders of you. Gifts, pictures, and things from the past often stir up powerful nostalgic emotions—even for dumpers. They show that your ex still feels connected to you and that he or she may feel bad for hurting you.

You may see that your ex is pretending to be over you when your ex:

• holds on to albums and relationship memories
• refuses to delete shared pictures off social media
• keeps personalized gifts such as love letters and jewelry

8)Talking and asking about you

The more your ex talks about you in a neutral or positive manner, the more he or she subliminally respects you as a person.

Your ex may not be direct about it or in direct contact with you, but an indifferent or angry person wouldn't ask or talk about you in a nice manner.

Dumpees and dumpers are often like water and oil. They simply don't mix because they want to stay away from each other.

You need to know that a person who has no interest in you will probably not talk about you or ask your friends and family hundreds of questions about you. Your ex will likely avoid talking about you because doing so will give your ex space that he or she needs.

Of course, asking one question about you doesn't mean that your ex is pretending to be over you. But asking multiple questions every day could.

As a dumpee, you need to know how to differentiate feelings from mere curiosity. Curiosity is normal and it's often a reason why dumpers reach out. It's a breadcrumb that doesn't last long whereas an ex having feelings for you will need to know what you're up to because not knowing will give him or her anxiety.

So if your ex is a bit nosy, don't immediately assume that your ex wants you back. Your ex probably feels a bit jealous. Especially if your ex asks things such as:

• is he dating anyone?
• what is he doing now?
• who are his new friends?
• why is he not talking to me?

9)Constant communication

There are no better signs that your ex is pretending to be over you than when your ex can't stop talking to you. When a person is interested in you, he or she will give you his or her undivided attention and won't let you go. And your ex won't just do this once.

Your ex will do it all the time because not talking to you will create anxiety and fear.

If your ex makes you feel special and shows that he or she cares about you by giving you his/her attention, you can rest assured that your ex still has feelings for you.

Your ex cares about you, otherwise, he or she wouldn't be in constant contact with you.

10)Your ex gets jealous and envious

If your ex gets envious of your achievements or jealous of your new partner, it's a sign your ex still possesses feelings for you.

According to Psychology Today, jealousy is a complex emotion that comes to the surface when a person feels threatened.

The person's threat can be real or imaginary, but it almost always portrays low self-esteem and a desire to connect with an object of desire.

If your ex gets jealous of you, he or she most likely envies what you have and coincidentally, wants it for himself or herself too.

This means that your ex considers you valuable and respects you enough to want your happiness.

11)Hiding his/her new partner from you

This is another one of those ambiguous signs. If your ex hides his or her new relationship from you, it could mean many things. The most possible explanations are:

• your ex feels guilty and doesn't want to to be deemed as a player
• your ex wants to keep the doors open in case it doesn't work out

Either way, you should wait for your ex to contact you first and bring up getting back together so your ex can see your worth and come back for the right reasons.

Here's a video of the 11 signs your ex is pretending to be over you.

This concludes my research. If you can think of any other signs your ex is pretending to be over you, post them in the comments section below.

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